Picking an Officiant

One of the most overlooked decisions in a wedding is picking the Officiant. People just assume they have to pick whoever the church gives them or that the location will suggest a person. But I think a lot of us have the experience of attending a wedding where the Officiant was either a little too out there or a major mood killer. I think that taking the time to pick someone that matches you and your grooms personal style can have an unforgettable impact on the wedding.

But where to start?

1. Do you want to have a religious ceremony?
   There are a lot of religious leaders that will not participate in outdoor ceremonies because it's against what they believe in, this is especially true for Catholics. Make sure that you really talk it over with your partner. Take into account your parents because if you just spring on them that you aren't having a traditional church wedding, they may be really hurt. Keep them in the loop too.
   
2. Check out who is in your area
   WeddingMinisters.com is a great starting tool to help you figure out just who is in your area and what your choices are. Make a list of the a few in your area and ask them when you can come see them.
   
3. Start the Interviews
   Make a list of 3-5 Officiants and go to interview them. You are really meeting them to gauge their temperament to make sure they are the right fit for your wedding. You are really hiring them to do a good job, so be a good boss and hire a good person. Some great questions to ask are: Will you be able to write your own vows? We come from different religious backgrounds, can you still marry us? How many ceremonies have you performed before? How long have you been doing this? How much of the wedding can we customize?
   

Look at your Officiant like the director of your wedding ceremony, you and the groom are the writers and actors along with your wedding party. Work together to make sure you can have your perfect day.

Happy interviewing!
--The Southside Bride